Who’s in the Room?
My Body is Not My Own #MeToo
((Mum and Dad: maybe don’t read this one. Love you!)) I’ve been feeling a little melancholy lately. Ever since #MeToo. I’ve had so many feelings that I haven’t really been able to sort them out. I want to put on the Smashing Pumpkins and just sink into the emotional landscape of my teenage years, … Continue readingMy Body is Not My Own #MeToo
White Feelings: 0-60 for Charlottesville
Charlottesville is a fucking mess. So here it is: your 0-60 speed-run through your white feelings to get you on board… In no particular order. Oh my god, I can’t believe this is happening. It is. I’m sorry. Oh my god, this is just so awful. It is. I can’t believe this is real. It. Fucking. Is. How … Continue readingWhite Feelings: 0-60 for Charlottesville
Charlottesville – What Can I Do?!
White folks – this is not about you or your feelings. Before you can do anything on this list you absolutely must purge any thoughts about “This is not America”, “I can’t believe this” or “Why can’t we all just get along?” – put a pin in those thoughts for now, we’ll have time to … Continue readingCharlottesville – What Can I Do?!
Connection and Competition
A few months ago I taught a workshop to young girls attending a March Break camp. It was all about giving girls ages 9-12 the confidence they need to pursue careers in traditionally male-dominated tech roles. Sounds like my kind of thing right? I decided I wanted to teach them about a communication theory from … Continue readingConnection and Competition
Funding Social Justice: A Few Ideas
Since the post on white money I’ve had some people asking me what they can do to make a difference. Many have shared their personal stories with money and the poverty mentality, but they’re still not sure what to do. There’s no one quick trick, I’m afraid. Your ideas around money and wealth have been … Continue readingFunding Social Justice: A Few Ideas
White Money in Social Justice
I can’t talk about money without talking about my relationship to money. I grew up middle class. Or maybe upper middle class? I’m not sure what the defining features are. We only had one car most of the time, and were only allowed two gifts from Santa, but also we had a pool for a … Continue readingWhite Money in Social Justice
Allyship is Just a Little White Lie
Allyship is not enough. I just came back from the Black Lives Matter Symposium in Cambridge. My friend, DiDi Delgado, a brilliant writer and truth-teller, asked me to co-facilitate the white panels with Abraham Lateiner and Debby Irving. In the process I learned something not only about myself, but about white folks in racial justice … Continue readingAllyship is Just a Little White Lie
Wonder Woman: Listening in the Name of Intersectionality
Coming off the high of Ghostbusters last summer, the first Wonder Woman trailer dropped. I wrote an article about the importance of the movie to me. I dug up a story from my childhood about Wonder Woman and waxed poetic about how much this movie would mean to me. My feminism and social justice … Continue readingWonder Woman: Listening in the Name of Intersectionality
Matt Walsh Doesn’t Care About Women’s Sports
Dear Matt Walsh, Kindly take your patriarchal condescension and shove it. If I for one second ever believe that you give a flying fuck about women’s sports, please, let my friends know that I’ve been abducted by aliens. Can you do that for me, Matt Walsh? That would be awesome. I’ve scrolled through your history, … Continue readingMatt Walsh Doesn’t Care About Women’s Sports
In Search of the Angry White Woman
Finding Anger, Forgetting Guilt. Anger is a new emotion for me. I realize I’m a 30 year old woman and I should probably have a better handle on this. But discovering anger, feeling it, naming it, and expressing it, are all part of a very new process for me. Someone said to me recently that … Continue readingIn Search of the Angry White Woman